Wednesday, 8 November 2017

My love hate relationship with V

I have wondered many a times, could we have ever been friends...had it not been for us being sisters... and always came back with the same answer "i highly doubt that" she and i are so different...by nature..by temperment...and now i know...even thought process...


She is someone who is scpetical, bitter, unhappy in general...trying to be the victom...and although i might be bitter or unhappy at times...i never have played the victim....

She is my sister and i love her...but how i wish i loved her because of who she is...and not because of who her parents were...we are a clear exapmple of how different two siblings can be although brought up in same household by same parents..

She has an uncanny habit of getting under my skin...she has done that in the past and is doing that quite well currently as well...she doesnt want to know about Amit...and doesnt want to meet him until we decide on a wedding date...doesnt believe in live-in relationships and feels that Amit is commitment phobic...this is funny coming from her cause she is married to a commitment phobic guy herself...who took almost a year to decide if he wanted to get married to her...his own mother had to give him an earful before he decided...or should we say succumbed...

Today she called me consistently as if something serious had happened...and then when i call her back she tells me about some message sent by Gita tai about some guy she knows who is my age and is suitable..V wanted to know if i was willing to explore...and this couldnt wait till the end of the day or lunch time...cause of course she had to reply to Gita tai's msg instantly; otherwise the guy who hasnt been married for 36 years would have been married within 2 hours!!! ridiculous on both accounts...her idiotic behavior regarding timelines and disturbing me during working hours for something this trivial...and her insistance on ignoring the fact that i am in a commited relationship, just because i might live with the guy before deciding to get married to him...

There are times when i tend to hate her...or hate the fact that i let her get to me...i need to work on this better..cause its only going to cause more issues for me...she has a husband and kid to live with...so it wont matter to her as much....but if i let her get to me....i might spoil an amazing relationship i have with Amit...so i will speak to her as less as possible...wont share things with are not neccessary...will go there after her surgery...but more so as duty and to spend time with Aadhya than anything else..

I am 35 years old and i should definitely be able to manage this...i will speak to Sid / Yogs if i feel overwhelmed by her behavior... but wont let her affect me.....and will definitely not speak to Amit about this...i want them to have a cordial relationship whenever they meet...if i tell him too many negative things about her, he will go in it with too much of preconceived notion...i dont want that to happen...

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